All My Love Dating

I’m sure you’ve seen it in the movies, it seems like every romantic comedy has this scene: the female protagonist, slumped in her sweatpants on her couch, red-faced and puffy-eyed with a Kleenex dangling out of her nose and threatening to plop into her fifty-gallon bucket of ice cream, bawling out desperate pleas to figure out why her boyfriend left her. Even if real life rarely gets that dramatic, breakups feel like that, and being left with that bewildered feeling of not knowing why he left is horrible…so let me help you figure out what went wrong!

Now, there are a lot of things that could make your guy want to head for the hills, and some are fairly reasonable while others are just stupid. You have to bear in mind that not every single problem can be dealt with, but the majority of them really are…so long as you get on it and do it right. It generally holds true that most relationships can be salvaged, if you can figure out what made it tank…so I’m going to list off some of the biggest problems so you can see if anything rings a bell.

1) Girls, you know those movies where the guy has this unbelievably overbearing girlfriend who nags him to no end, calling him every half hour to see where he’s at, and every time someone mentions he laughs and jokes about what a demon she is? Well, in real life, the guy doesn’t laugh and joke about it, he gets steamed and hates his life. There is very little in this world that will make a guy want to head for the hills like a girlfriend who can’t leave him alone.

This usually doesn’t get to such an extreme, but if you catch yourself nagging him like this, you need to stop a sec and think about it. This kinda thing can happen without you realizing it, and before you know it he’s gone to find somebody who won’t make him pull his hair out.

2) The sad fact of the matter is that a LOT of relationships are absolutely destroyed by “another person.” It can show up in a variety of ways, from another girl coming into his life who seems to be absolutely perfect for him, to one or the other of you two deciding that it’s just not worth it to keep your pants on and be faithful to one another. Generally him cheating on you doesn’t make him leave you, but I guarantee that if you do it to him he’s going to dump you flat on your rear.

So it shouldn’t be surprising that the best way to avoid a relationship going in the toilet like this is to NOT CHEAT ON HIM. Yeah, no duh, right? It seems like a no-brainer, but the former singular role of guys to be the ones doing the cheating has really bled over into the fairer sex. So just don’t do it. To keep him from wanting to wander and stray to other women, about all you can do is provide him with what he needs at home, so that he doesn’t go elsewhere to get it. Remember though, that there are some dirtbag guys who just can’t seem to be satisfied with one person, and there’s nothing you can do about that.

3) If a guy gets bored, he’s probably going to eventually end up leaving. It’s kinda harsh to say that you could ever bore him, but sometimes things get in the way of you two and stuff just kinda gets stale. Whether it’s class, work, or doing things with friends, something can end up keeping the two of you from having much time for one another, and when that happens sometimes the raging fires of love can sizzle down into embers and even go out.

Try keeping things interesting, being spontaneous. Don’t be clingy, but spend as much time with him as he’s comfortable with. There are guys who need a measure of space to be comfortable, but any decent guy will be glad to spend time with the woman he loves. All you have to do is make that time a reality, and things usually stay warm enough to endure the test of time.

And those are the top 3 reasons guys generally leave…I’m not saying no guy has ever left because of something not on this list, but the majority of the male-initiated breakups are related to one of these three things. So now that you know some of the stuff to look out for, you can start fixing your life!

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