After just breaking up, when your world is upside down, all you want sometimes is some help pulling your life back together and finding another chance with the one you love. Sadly, that kind of help can be hard to find…but you can stop looking…you’ve found it! Here are 3 great tips to help you better your odds of winning your ex back.

1) Oddly enough, it’s actually a very effective trick to actually cut off contact with your ex for about a month after the breakup. This may seem counterproductive but in reality it’s very healthy for your efforts. It gives your ex some time to cool off and think, and you some time to organize yourself and create a plan -one thing you should never be without.

Without this valuable breather time, you’d find it pretty hard to pull things together by just winging it. It’s always important to make sure you know what you’re doing before you do it, or else it may have poor consequences you didn’t at first expect.

2) Movies have somehow made it seem like every problem you have will eventually solve itself or be solved for you if you sit and cry long enough. This isn’t true, you have to take matters into your own hands and take back your life for yourself! You have to be responsible for where your life goes, not somebody else. Feel your pain from the breakup, but don’t let it bring you down and keep you from getting your life fixed.

Any plan you build during your month of no contact can’t rely on your ex reacting in any specific way or contributing anything to the rebuilding process. This all has to be you…if your ex had his input, you’d never get back together, so you have to be the driving force behind everything.

3) The company of people who love and care for you is an amazingly healing thing. Just having close friends and family around can make you feel better and start to redevelop your confidence and motivation. Surround yourself with these people, it will ease your breakup pain and make your recovery easier.

Don’t underestimate the healing power of being with people who care for you. Just having somebody makes everything seem a little less impossible,and their support is something they’ll gladly give you. Just make sure you don’t take advantage of their kindness.

These are only a few tips for you, but if you heed them you’ll find things to be a lot easier than if you hadn’t. Most importantly, do not go into this without a plan…that’s a big part of what the one-month separation is for: to develop that plan. Doing this without a real strategy can be a disaster, so make sure you have a helping hand guiding you through it.

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