Pick Up Lines: The Social Opener

This article is part of a series of tips on “pick-up lines” that I am releasing for free to the public. In a social environment, there are several different ways to begin a conversation with a woman. While you may think you need the perfect first impression, your opening line does not have to be as clever as you think. If you are friendly and fun and non-needy, women will be happy to talk to you even if your opener is simple. The Social Opener, popularized by Mehow, may be all you need to start getting attraction.

Let me give you some examples of the social opener:

“Hey guys,”

“You guys look fun, I had to say hi”

“You guys look fun, are you friendly?”

“You guys have a cool energy, I just wanted to see what you were like.”

“Hey, how’s it going?”

While all these openers are short, some are very straightforward, and some may be “out there,” when commenting on a girl’s energy. No matter which one you use, you must come in looking happy and content with your night already. You are facing the group, but not bending forward, even if they have trouble hearing you or vice versa. You’re just having a good time and helping others do the same.

One thing different we’re doing here is using the word “guys” instead of “girls” to describe them. When you’re socializing, you want to convey that you talk to everyone, guys and girls, so you use a more unisex term. If you said “Hey girls,” it would sound more like you were on the prowl, which is fine, but it doesn’t work with the social opener. Buy using “guys,” the women will understand they have to work a bit harder to get you.

Whether the woman is alone, in a group of girls, or in a group of guys, the social opener will do well in opening things up. It’s friendly, but not overtly showing romantic or sexual interest.

“What do I say next?” Good question. One thing you could do is have a few pre-planned stories to go into. However, I think it is a better practice to get good at improvising. Speaking on the fly is a very important skill in meeting women. While you are developing this, it will feel awkward as you run out of things to say, but just keep working on it. The more new people you talk to, the easier it will be.

Once you get good at it, the social opener becomes the most consistent way to open and start new conversations. If people do not want to talk to you when you use an opener like this, usually there’s something really off with your body language, clothing style, or voice tone. Keep working on it and ask a friend for help. Try to open at least four groups a night using the social opener and you should find yourself becoming extremely comfortable with talking to women you just met.

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